For that rifle, you'll get about the same amount of recoil out of a 250 gr bullet at 2300 fps as you will a 405 gr bullet at 1600 fps - right at 25 ft lbs of free recoil for both loads.
Ballistic info for a 250 gr launched at 2300 fps, 100 yard zero
Ballistic info for a 405 gr launched at 1600 fps, 125 yard zero
Keep in mind that KE != penetration depth. Once the bullet hits the target, Sectional Density and momentum (bullet weight) are what we're interested in.
A 250 gr .458 bullet has an SD of .170, a 405 gr .458 bullet has an SD of .276
You're good to go for white tail deer out to 150 yards with both of those loads without having to adjust for holdover.
MV is important, but it isn't the end-all-be-all when we're looking at terminal performance. If high MV were THE critical component to penetration, we'd hunt cape buffalo with 204 Ruger or 22-250. But we don't, we hunt them with 286 gr to 570 gr, high SD (above .30) bullets somewhere in the neighborhood of 1900 - 2500 fps. Granted, white tail are nowhere nearly as tough as cape buffalo, but the same principals still apply.
The other thing about the 250 gr monoflex and the 325 gr FTX is that the brass has to be trimmed down to 2.040" from the SAAMI length of 2.105". Not a huge deal, certainly not a deal breaker, but it is a deal.
Lead alloys are also pretty inexpensive. You can buy 405 gr Missouri Bullet Company Buffalo #2 for around $60 for a box of 200, including shipping and taxes. And assuming you can't find a published load on a given lead/lead alloy bullet, the load for any jacketed bullet of the same weight is safe to load for any lead bullet.