This recoil table has proven to be pretty accurate and very useful. A 45-70 loaded to original BP levels is still around 18 ft lbs if recoil in an 1895CB. You can soften that a bit by filling the mag tube but then it is heavier too for bad shoulders.
The .357 might be on the light side for much game but my wife knocked down a few whitetails with her 1894C. A 44 mag with factory ammo is about 2/3 of the 45-70 BP level loads recoil (405 @ 1330). The 45LC can be like a 357 or 44 mag. My 45 is a very light but strong action at about 5lbs. It is almost as much fun to shoot as the 357 but can shoot 300gr loads that rival the 45-70.
If I were in your situation I would look for a .38-55 or buy a 30-30 I like and have it converted to 38-55.
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